Fighting with your friend is always a terrible thing to experience, but fighting in cyber space is even worse. I should know. I recently had a fight with my friend over Facebook and it was a drama explosion of insanity! Maybe her passive-aggressive YOLO statuses she kept updating while she was spazing out on me was what intensified the argument. Maybe she suddenly developed a superman complex and felt she needed to correct me, karate-chopping me through her chat box included with offensive emoticons.
Whatever the case was, I believe the fight was 10 times worse because it was over the Internet. The Internet dehumanizes the participants in the fight. Arguing behind a computer screen allows you to say whatever you want without having the responsibility to deal with the other person’s emotions. In my opinion, it’s a terrible way to communicate.
My word of advice for anyone who has yet to experience a social media brawl–just don’t. Resist the urge to combat with keystrokes. This type of dueling leads to a great deal of miscommunication, which further complicates matters. And remember–your words can cut like a sword, so control yourself and be cautious of what you type or you may be deleted from your friend/boyfriend/girlfriend’s life.
Have you ever had an online brawl?
Kandice: Owner of the blogosphere the Pink-Elephants. Kandice blogs about random moments, word vomit, and the everyday happenings of a female college student.
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4 comments
Lauren says:
Nov 14, 2012
Great article. I have had fights online that definitely escalate because people say things they wouldn’t say to your face. Very sad.
Mandy, 26 says:
Nov 18, 2012
Woah there, no need to continue to bash your “friend” via blogging. It’s sounds like you are still mad. I would have calmed down more before writing that your friend is “passive aggressive” and “spazing out” while at the same time taking no blame yourself for the argument. Actually, you needn’t mention any details about what happened as that is between you two.
This article is very unprofessional and immature.
Kandice F. says:
Dec 18, 2012
Mandy,
Thank you for your criticism of my article. It always excites me when readers take the time to analyze my work. It encourages me to become a better writer. Critiques are also like a pat on the back to me because that means my work was interesting enough to draw an audience. I must be doing something right. I really appreciated your comment about my work; however, there are some things I would like to explain to you. As you mentioned in your comment, you don’t know anything about the fight or my participation in the fight. I am a mature adult, and of course, I have considered my faults in the situation. I did not include that part in this article because I decided I wasn’t going to give out critical details about the argument on this site. My article wasn’t about that specific fight, it was about my opinion on the broader issue of Facebook fights I know Love Twenty’s female (or male) readers have encountered and I had experienced. I was inspired by the recent issue I was having with my friend to write this article, but it was not my intention to bash my friend through this post. I didn’t list her name, what the fight was about, or even blame her for the argument. I simply stated the facts of what had occurred online between us, which once again you have no privy of because you do not know exactly what happened. And as far as your claim about me being an immature and unprofessional writer, you are right in a sense. I’m a blogger, not a New York Times journalist. I have only been blogging for four years and mostly I blog for myself. What that means is that most of my articles are personal to me and therefore will only showcase my perspective on issues. I tried to stay as objective as possible with this article, but again this article is not a news story about the fight between my friend and I. I don’t have to disclose every detail about the argument because my article was about a bigger problem, fighting online, not me deconstructing the fight between my friend and me. I hope that clears up any confusion you had about me regarding this article. I hope you continue to read my work or other Love Twenty writers in case my writing is not your cup of tea.
Thank you for your words,
Kandice Farmer
P.S: I am actually a very calm person
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Mila V. says:
Dec 18, 2012
Mandy, I disagree with you here. This writer did not mention the person she was fighting with…basically at all. No names were named, and there was no pointing of fingers. We don’t even know what the argument was about from just reading the blurb in this article. It seems like she stated the facts – that her friend and her chose to try to settle a dispute over Facebook. Which leads into the point of this article, to me at least, that instead of fighting online people should handle relationship issues in person. Also, there was no ‘bashing’ ,again, because there were no names named. “Spazing out” and “passive-aggressive” are not bashing terms…they describe the writer’s opinion of the actions that were occurring. I make this (long-winded) comment because I have personal experience with this type of distance fighting and I, for one, know it is not pretty when someone cannot come to you and talk to you face to face like an adult. One more thing…where does this article turn into something immature and unprofessional? It’s an opinion piece…yeah.
My two cents!