You had me at hello.  In college, this is literally what gets some guys in to bed with an all-too-willing girl.  And then as the tale usually goes, the guy never speaks to the girl again and she harbors an unhealthy obsession with him for the rest of her time at school.  But does jumping into bed with a complete stranger always end in heartache?

Not always.

Sometimes, it can work. An actual relationship could form out of a one night stand or “hookup.”  But let’s be realistic here and honestly say that when this occurs, it’s the exception.  It’s not the norm, not by a long shot.  Guys in college rack up their numbers–not all, but a lot–with no care in the world. But so do girls, going through guys one at a time waiting for a knight in shining armor to sweep them off their feet.

Ladies, quit being so unrealistic.

Nowadays, so many girls waste their time on guys who will never give them a second glance, only paying attention when they spread their legs, then poof–it’s on to the next one.  So, what are we going to do about it?  If you’re sick and tired of endless terrible hookups and empty promises, then stop allowing it to happen.  No one is hurting you but yourself.

How does one do this?  I’m not advocating for convents to start overflowing–what I’m really trying to say is wait.  Not in a promise-ring-chastity-belt sort of way or a Nicholas-Sparks-novel type either.  I mean, wait for the guy who actually cares and remembers the color of your eyes–not your panties.  You have all of the say, hormones be damned, take control of your life keep your pants buttoned, skirt down, top on, and pride intact.  I am not saying you will find your prince charming; what I am saying is you will find someone that cares and treats you like a human being, not some booty call.

Ladies, to wait is the greatest victory of all. Do not waste time on some smooth talking wordsmith. Guess what? They use the same lines on every girl, have perfected their “lay trap,” and talk a girl up for hours at a party boosting her confidence and self-esteem enough to make her actually believe he cares, then to only misuse her trust to get in her pants.

We all know how this one ends.

A guy will not make you complete or happy; that comes from you as a person.  Accomplishing this means finding yourself and  discovering who you really are.  Before you get too serious with a guy, make sure he understands your wants and needs. If he doesn’t understand or want to cooperate, kick his sorry, horny self to the curb. You can do better.

Don’t let the pressure of the typical college lifestyle get to you.  You know, the one where you think everyone is having sex so you need to be, too. Get clued in on a little secret: half of these people have no idea what they’re doing (or who their doing, for that matter) and many are miserable.  It is not hard to wait; all you have to do is try.

Thoughts? Let’s chat in the comments below!

Meggie is a 21 year old junior at Sacred Heart University currently in the education program and majoring in english. She loves to read, write, and listen to music all while scrolling the internet for workout ideas she never does. Mainly just trying to enjoy and survive college life. Contact Meggie at pringerm@sacredheart.edu
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