They say that distance makes the heart grow fonder, but when you find yourself halfway across the country from your best friend, distance pulls a fast one and those feelings of fondness quickly turn into a post-Ben-and-Jerry’s-binge mess (and we’ve all been there). Whether you’re away for three months or three years, it’s easy to fall out of sync when you continue to live your lives in each others absence.
New job (old job), new city (old city), new love (you get the picture), new people! You barely have time to shampoo and condition in the shower, let alone have a genuine catch up session. So how do you maintain BFF status in a manageable, thoughtful way? Easy. Love Twenty shows you how!
Write each other letters. I don’t know about you, but I would not say no to snail mail. In a day and age when emoticons express our feelings for us (curse you Emoji!), a handwritten note or card can be a breath of fresh air. Write a note at your desk while you’re at work and pop it in the mail room on the way to lunch. Walk down the card aisle when you’re at the drugstore and look at the blank card section. Find one that reminds you of your pal and let them know why inside. A stamp costs less than a dollar — receiving a piece of mail that isn’t from Visa will make them feel like a million bucks.
Videochat once in a while. Since teleportation isn’t a real thing yet (I wish for it every chance I get), capitalize on the innovations we do have and schedule a video chat. FaceTime, Skype, Google Hangout; pick your online spot as if you were choosing a coffee shop and enjoy one another’s pixelized company. Aim to videochat once every month, and if you have the time, do something together! Watch an episode of Community or give your friend a tour around the new apartment. It’s unlikely that you’ll be leaving on a jet plane for home anytime soon, so improvise a little.
Interact on Facebook. Or Twitter, or whatever it is you use these days. Yes, this one seems a little obvious since you probably do it quite well already, but a simple “MISS YOUR FACE” wall post lets them (and the rest of the Facebook world) know that you’ve been thinking about them. Feeling nostalgic? Creep through photo albums from the first year you met and like a few random shots you’re both tagged in. Having a solo-dance party (who hasn’t)? Post the song you’re jamming to and hope that they dance to it too. Sometimes life is all about the little things. Remember them.
When it’s all said and done, the relationship you have with your best friend will only be as strong as you both want it to be. Be patient and understanding, graceful and sincere. Meet each other half way and you’ll feel like nothing but your postal code has changed. Attached at the hip or separated by land-mass, you’re best friends for a reason.
What do you do to stay in touch with your best friends?