I’ve officially descended into the confusing world of a woman’s twenties and am already wondering what I’m doing. From what I’ve learned through my own barrage of questioning and research, there are no guidelines or road maps to try to navigate through these confusing years. Day after day I try to figure out what I should be doing.

I don’t think the social media is really helping either. When you see people going out or posting about internships and having these big amazing breaks it makes you jealous. Sure you’re happy for them, but that little part deep down inside of you — the evil green monster — is rearing its ugly, scaly head. How can someone be doing so great and I’m just this mediocre couch potato who is deep into a series-long One Tree Hill marathon?

But that is the issue, people are only displaying their great gains, not their lowly lows. It is the highlight reel that people chose to unleash on the web. Those nights of staying in and chowing down on Domino’s are not ones that most people want to show to the world. But the truth is these pajama-wearing, no-bra nights are present in everyone’s life. They just appear in different forms.

If you’re stuck doing something you hate, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Switch majors, quit the crummy job, break up with the loser of a boyfriend, do what’s good for you, and know that as bad as it seems now, life gets better.

I think that we need to stop trying to define every move we make and just see how it goes. For those control freaks and planners (me included) out there, I understand how hard this notion can be. By letting go, you will have peace of mind and start discovering the things you love to do.

That’s the beauty of it — the unknown. Your journey is up to you. Now is the time to figure out who you are, what you like, and what you want to do with your life.  Ultimately your twenties are about finding out who you are. So before discounting this time in our lives, let’s try to sit back and enjoy.

How do you feel about your twenties? Leave a comment below!